Half Death

PS: Not written in a gush of anxiety or woe...

The life of an Indian girl post marriage, partly shares its analogy with life after death.(some part may be true for women globally as well).

A girl quits her identity and lives with a new last name(sometimes a new first name as well). Death also separates you from your name.

She has to accept that her actual family post wedding is the family of her spouse. The priority of her own parents goes below the priority of her in-laws. She can do something for her parents if time and resources allow post pampering her new home.

Partly similar to death since you can hardly do anything for your kins post death.

One point of difference here: she can communicate with her erstwhile family post marriage smoothly on phone(Thanks to telecommunication revolution!), unlike post death when you have no choice besides showing up in the dreams of your loved ones.. :D.

The pay check she always wanted to spend on her first family/parents is spent on her new family/in laws. She feels morally disgruntled if she spends something on her biological parents. In effect, the pay check, despite existing, ceases to cause the effect it was brought into existence for.
This is also analogous to death where the paycheck ceases to exist altogether.

She ushers into a whole new world consisting of a new family and new kins. A world which was not known to her till her day of marriage came.
Similar experience occurs when she dies(a whole new world is ushered which was not known to her till the day of her expiry arrived).

On the festive days, the parents come to greet her with gifts consisting of eatables/clothes and flowers etc.
Post death, the person gets greetings/felicitation in her name from kins once a year.

So, all those happily married ladies, please stop being fearful of death, you have been through a partial death experience already!

Heterogenious Locks

Note: Im bit bothered of being tagged wrongly for writing this post, however, I prioritize the freedom of expression to the fear of being notorious  .. :)



I just happened to view some beautiful snaps of a hindu marriage held in CA. The couple looked amazingly happy and contented. Dressed up in red and white saree and dupatta,  the bride was shining perfect. The chemistry of the couple was just amazing(at least in pictures).

The most peculiar thing about this marriage was the fact that the couple consisted of two females.. :)

OK it is a lesbian marriage, (as everyone calls it).
(Don't know what the women who are non lesbians but would like to spend their life with a female partner officially, have to be called as though!)

Wedlock choices of individual(s) have been sponsoring agitation in society for all obvious and non obvious reasons historically. This one for being an "un natural" wedlock.

The wikipedia statistics say that there is no anomaly/weakness(psychological/mental/physical/sexual) seen in the biological children of such couples. If that is the case, why so much of hatred for such wedlocks?

We should not forget the following balancing points which such wedlocks can bring to the society(specifically the asian society where sex ratio is crazily disturbed and poverty is in ample):

1. No hassles/long and depressing hunts for parents in search of a perfect groom if their daughter is ready to mingle with a girl.
2. No life long inferiority for ladki walas(both parties would be ladki walas.. :) )
3. Lesser chances of domestic voilence(both partners are equally strong emotionally and physically)
4. No party asks for dowry... !  .. .. yipieee!
5. Women who act more like males in households donot have to feel shy about their dominating/masculine tendencies if they partner with ladies.
6. It discourages the tendency of having children with DNA of both the parents. (lot of metropolitan couples spill money and spoil health to achieve this before they end up with traditional surrogacy)
7. Last, but not least, it also encourages adoption.

The only complaint I have with the above mentioned marriage is that the couple performed rituals while sitting on chair instead of sitting on the floor. In hindu tradition, while performing such major yajyas, the doers are supposed to sit at the same level as the level of fire bowl(hawan kund)...

Identity Crisis

There has been enough effort I have made to understand who I am. The human/other races I see living around me are all doing same things for centuries: Taking birth, growing up, settling down, reproducing, upbringing the progeny, enjoying the material pleasures, fighting senility and dying. This happens with everyone. But no one knows what happens after this. What happens to the identity we live the whole of our life with?

Reincarnation? ok... so what attribute(s) validate that the soul is same? what is the unique identifier? like we have a primary key in Databases(wrong analogy may be..!). How can we know who we actually are?

Soul of course, is what intelligentsia comes with as an answer.

So, how do we identify a soul? (may be the question is too physical to be asked in context of spiritual discussions).

Its a big and probably the second most urgent crisis envisaged by every conscious mind(first one being the ability to sustain life ... of course!). But ironically, little/no research is sponsored to find out the answer(poor people have no time left post spending the day on making both the ends meet and and rich ones prefer to spend their day demeaning/spying/threatening/showing off and taxing the former).

The consciously ignorant minds choose to concentrate on other things.

Bigger travesty shows up when it becomes very much apparent that ultimately, everyone's aim is to accumulate wealth beyond what (s)he can actually utilize within the scope of current incarnation(life is a single short epoc.. you see). That too, for a beneficiary who is not capable enough to sustain forever(i.e. their respective physical bodies).

investigation continues...