PS: Not written in a gush of anxiety or woe...
The life of an Indian girl post marriage, partly shares its analogy with life after death.(some part may be true for women globally as well).
A girl quits her identity and lives with a new last name(sometimes a new first name as well). Death also separates you from your name.
She has to accept that her actual family post wedding is the family of her spouse. The priority of her own parents goes below the priority of her in-laws. She can do something for her parents if time and resources allow post pampering her new home.
Partly similar to death since you can hardly do anything for your kins post death.
One point of difference here: she can communicate with her erstwhile family post marriage smoothly on phone(Thanks to telecommunication revolution!), unlike post death when you have no choice besides showing up in the dreams of your loved ones.. :D.
The pay check she always wanted to spend on her first family/parents is spent on her new family/in laws. She feels morally disgruntled if she spends something on her biological parents. In effect, the pay check, despite existing, ceases to cause the effect it was brought into existence for.
This is also analogous to death where the paycheck ceases to exist altogether.
She ushers into a whole new world consisting of a new family and new kins. A world which was not known to her till her day of marriage came.
Similar experience occurs when she dies(a whole new world is ushered which was not known to her till the day of her expiry arrived).
On the festive days, the parents come to greet her with gifts consisting of eatables/clothes and flowers etc.
Post death, the person gets greetings/felicitation in her name from kins once a year.
So, all those happily married ladies, please stop being fearful of death, you have been through a partial death experience already!
The life of an Indian girl post marriage, partly shares its analogy with life after death.(some part may be true for women globally as well).
A girl quits her identity and lives with a new last name(sometimes a new first name as well). Death also separates you from your name.
She has to accept that her actual family post wedding is the family of her spouse. The priority of her own parents goes below the priority of her in-laws. She can do something for her parents if time and resources allow post pampering her new home.
Partly similar to death since you can hardly do anything for your kins post death.
One point of difference here: she can communicate with her erstwhile family post marriage smoothly on phone(Thanks to telecommunication revolution!), unlike post death when you have no choice besides showing up in the dreams of your loved ones.. :D.
The pay check she always wanted to spend on her first family/parents is spent on her new family/in laws. She feels morally disgruntled if she spends something on her biological parents. In effect, the pay check, despite existing, ceases to cause the effect it was brought into existence for.
This is also analogous to death where the paycheck ceases to exist altogether.
She ushers into a whole new world consisting of a new family and new kins. A world which was not known to her till her day of marriage came.
Similar experience occurs when she dies(a whole new world is ushered which was not known to her till the day of her expiry arrived).
On the festive days, the parents come to greet her with gifts consisting of eatables/clothes and flowers etc.
Post death, the person gets greetings/felicitation in her name from kins once a year.
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